basically:

yes, he will likely be entitlted to part of the home even though you purchased it before marriage because the community earnings undoubtedly went towards monthly mortgage payments and the home may have appreciated in value. if you never lived together and had a disagreement about the fundamental of marriage which was not disclosed you maybe entitlted to an annullment, but if community earnings were used towards the home he has a legitimate claim.  if it looks like you guys never really had a real marriage relationship as in the traditional sense I would have to say an equitable property division would not (repeat not) necessistate a division of any portion of the equity in your home.

you never told how long you were married but from what you did relate it sounds short.  so don't worry that you make more than him becuase w/the military employment his needs are met= i doubt he'll get any maintenance if it went to the mat.

i can do your divorce entirely here in washington without you coming up from california, if we can't get him to sign the papers we could serve him locally as well as request that the case be finalized on agreed terms.  We obviously would want to attempt the settlement paper approach first.