New Thread My Settings My Posts Search Forum Home   General Discussions  Basic Divorce Questions  Uncertain and j...  Uncertain and just don't know where to begin    9/17/2009 2:48:21 PM ilovemyboys 1 posts Uncertain and just don't know where to begin Quote Reply I'm a stay at home mom of two (4 and 2)... My husband and I are discussing divorce. We've been trying to work on things and have been in counseling for 9 months but it's just not working out. He has a CPS record for abusing our oldest but has not been harming our child since this case was over. I had him removed from the home and the restraining order was not upheld by the commissioner. During this time he filed for divorce and I was also given notice that the children were not to be removed from our shared home. I was able to leave but could not take my children so I stayed with him and we began our marriage counseling. I have no job and no family here to support me or stay with. We have already filed for chapter 13 bankruptcy so our debt is minimal with just the monthly payment. He makes good money but wants split custody.. which I believe to be because he doesn't want to have to pay the full child support amount set by law. I'm afraid that I won't be able to find a job in order for me to get my own place, can't afford an attorney to help me with the divorce. I'm sorry if this post is not at all formulated or coherent..I'm just not sure what to do. He has the advantage of having been divorced twice before and knowing what to do and expect, having an attorney and also being gainfully employed.  10/15/2009 6:00:59 AM badeth 1 posts Re: Uncertain and just don't know where to begin Quote Reply Have you heard of cheap divorce? More than a million couples have used online divorce to hasten the process and save a lot of money. As you probably know, divorce law is administered on a state basis and what rules are applicable in one state may vary elsewhere. That is another benefit of dealing with online divorce experts. They know the local laws and will advise you specifically on matters which directly impact on your situation. Another option is seek for free legal assistance or divorce support groups in your area. If I'm not mistaken, every state provides free legal services to eligible clients.  5/14/2010 9:28:47 PM pjdxxxwa 3 posts Re: Uncertain and just don't know where to begin Quote Reply He has two strikes against him from what you wrote. Abuse of a child, and two previous divorces. I would think a judge would look at this and a red flag would be raised. As long as you have a clean record (no abuse, etc., or multiple divorces) I would think that the chances of his getting 50/50 custody is decreased. You really need to find out who is the best divorce attorney around and try to engage them for at least a look at your case and see where you stand and what your up against. Do not go into this blind. Do not get an attorney that dabbles in many things. Find one that does ONLY divorce. You need the specialist. Good luck.  Page 1 of 1   General Discussions  Basic Divorce Questions  Uncertain and j... Flat View Tree View Oldest To Newest Newest To Oldest