To: Whom Ever

I know that is question has been asked by a many fathers paying child support. When we pay our support and care is to be given to the kids but as they get older the children become problematic and drop out of school. This defiantly looks like the paying parent isn't getting his bang for the buck. To put this in to prospective I will tell you my story. I got divorce from my first wife how I had 2 children with and re-married to a woman with 2 children we had 3 more children. Now since then the Oldest of my wife’s kids has Graduated High school and is attending college in Florida. The next youngest is now in her Jouner year of high school and plans on attending Eastern Washington University after Graduation. The 3 younger children are doing great in school with above average grades. The children in Florida how I pay for are not getting the grades they need and the oldest has dropped out of high school and doesn't have enough credits to finish a freshman year. The second youngest get very low grades and is boarder line making enough to move on to the next level. To tell you about me I'm rarely home do to my commitments to the Army I have done three tours in Iraq and going on a 4th one. I would loved to go to court and fight for custody but with paying child support and taking care of my family I can’t afford to fight a court war in another state. I'm dammed to watch my kids grow up and become a shameful burden on society. I would hope that more people realize that this is happening and the right of the children and the none custodial parent are being looked at so we can take a bit out of crime/poverty and get all kids on the right track for gods sake if you don’t pay and have all A’s on your support payment card you’re a criminal but if you take the payment and get an E on raising your kids while getting paid child support you’re a poor single parent doing what you can in any other job or task that pays you to be a care giver you would be fired and loose your license. There are plenty of fathers just can’t afford the fight to get their kids and a court that will allow it to happen. I as a father do anything for all my kids mine by birth or not. I have it hard I need to show them how to do things right and if I can’t be there. Give them the tools along with a good environment to learn and be a roll model to want to follow the basic rules of life in what ever they choose to do in their lives.

1) Why does it not cost the custodial parent to make a change in support and it cost the None-custodial parent to make a change and further putting them in to dept in hard times.

2) Why can’t custodial parents be graded and pay the just amount for the service they provide for those kids they so desperately need to have custody of at time of divorce.

a) Bad grades:  25% decrees in support

b) Involvement with police child or parent: 25% decrees

c) Drop out of school or expulsion: 100% reduction until child resumes schooling

d) Non-custodial parent’s non involvement do to custodial parent move out of state of un-willingness to work with Non Custodial parent: 25% reduction

e) Child has special needs: the court takes care of that and a lot on the a-d won’t apply.

f) Non custodial parent not doing his part: 50% increase and 10% every year after unless they can show hardship to job or family would accrue do to expense of visitations.

I could go on and on but these thing need be implemented to ensure the job is being done on both side not just tax free money going out every year and parent counting the days to the last payment.  In the Real world you get fired for not doing your job and payment is no longer required by the employer. I also notice that people are paid by how well they do when they do do their job in an exceptional manor. Reward the good dam the bad.